Below is a list of positive affirmations, quotes and stories in no particular order. I enlisted the help of others at FetLife and the Submissive Guide. I am grateful for their assistance and enthusiasm. My hope is that others will enjoy this as much as I have. This is a work in progress. Please feel free to send me you additions.
Because you’re good enough, you’re submissive enough, and, doggonit, I love you! – My Sir when I told him about this project
there is no shame in being fearful. it is only a shame to remain so. -a grateful slave
(best we can aim 4) Individualistic in our style of following. -a grateful slave
it took me about 6 months to become fully independent again, but it happened. in retrospect, it feels like i traded all that discomfort for the joys i experienced during the best parts of that relationship. i don’t regret any of that period in my life. it was just the price i paid to grow and learn more about who i am and what i need to have joy in my life. -a grateful slave
By taking care of yourself, you show that you continue to love and obey the Person(s) who found you worthy to possess. -Patrick Califia M.A.
To say ‘i am owned,’ some people would think it’s crazy to invest that much time and energy into another mortal being. I believe it is a risk taken with great love and passion, as valid as the impermanent, artful and strong, conscious movements of a dancer or athlete. We do what we can to bring meaning into our lives before we die. Trapped inside skins and skulls that guard the loneliness of our selfhood, we are driven to seek out companionship, empathy with/and knowledge of another, kinship, the reassurance of being utterly seen and known. The brief moments when we think we may have succeeded are more valuable than any material victory or profit. The person who does not take up this quest is perhaps not fully human, or completely alive, even though it requires the seeker to pass the fiery ordeal of self-examination and the terror of being condemned to live forever outside of others’ notions of love, sanity or health. -Patrick Califia M.A.
My mind,body soul, are not mine, but entrusted to my care,until such a time, He takes possession – slavegirlsky
It’s the submissives that show to others what type of Dom owns them. – Anonymous
One of my mantras:”I have the strength to submit willfully and choose to be a proud slave.”
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain. – The ‘Fear Litany’ from Frank Herbert’s “Dune”
I personally am imagining a dialogue:
“Do you trust me?”
“Why do you trust me?”
“Because a, b, c.”
for example . . because you are dependable, caring, and honest with me or because you are good for me and good to me or whatever suits your experience . . .
For a submissive, there’s no such thing as too much patience.
He owns me,
He cares for me,
I am in a cage he has constructed .. the bars are tight against my skin like his embrace,
I cannot run away.
I know nothing but his presence.
Remind myself that thinking bad of myself implies he wouldn’t own someone special
We are never so vulnerable than when we trust someone but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy – Walter Anderson
Each person comes into this world with a specific destiny–he has something to fulfill, some message has to be delivered, some work has to be completed. You are not here accidentally–you are here meaningfully. There is a purpose behind you. The whole intends to do something through you. – Osho
Be silent, if you choose; but when it is necessary, speak; and speak in such a way that people will remember it. – Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them. – Albert Einstein
The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. – Mahatma Ghandi
In wanting the world to understand me, so to do I strive to communicate in a way that is understandable. Such is the beauty and the pain that is felt by anyone who belongs to a ‘non-normative’ community, we want to be who we are but we don’t want to be not normal forever so we conform in an attempt to educate, to promote, to belong, if not in a conventional in way, in a way so that we stretch convention so someday we won’t have to stretch it anymore. – Dylan Ryan
When we quit thinking primarily about ourselves and our own self-preservation, we undergo a truly heroic transformation of consciousness. – Joseph Campbell
People always say what we are looking for is a meaning for life…I don’t think that’s what we’re looking for. I think what we’re looking for is the experience of being alive. – Joseph Campbell
Everybody can be great… because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love. – Martin Luther King Jr.
Put on your own oxygen mask before attempting to aid others – You can’t look after anyone else until you look after yourself first.
To Serve is Divine
These are my Submissive Words :
Just a story. At one time I had money. Through very bad judgement my money ended up in other people’s hands because I was stupid (and believed I had to pay my way to be wanted). I came to Master flat broke..living with my son. He not only took me in but took/takes care of me because he wants me…the flat broke slave girl.
Remember that submission is a strength, not a weakness. To serve another with complete abandon takes a lot – trust, honour, love, discipline, respect, humility etc. To yield completely to another is not being weak. Your submission is a strength. Also remember your submission is a gift – a special gift you give your Sir.
I am an amazing gift to my Master and his most valuable possession.
i just want to be the slave that Sir desires and needs…
I am valued not because I serve, but because I am His.
I tell myself every day……”I choose to be submissive. It is my free choice and I choose to be me.”
Be My Master – Pull My Strings
You might not know this yet,
But I’m your twisted little marionette.
And you- My almighty puppeteer.
Make me dance around on strings.
You are the possessor,
And I am the possessed.
Bend me to your will.
I am the willing little slave,
And you – The master of my strings.
This is the second one –
“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect – you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.”
Obedience is an act of faith: disobedience is the result of unbelief – Edwin Louis Cole
Every act you do is an act of service, it either enhances the relationship or detracts from it
If dandelions were hard to grow they would be welcome on any lawn – Andrew V Mason
The ordinary arts we practice everyday at home are more important to the soul than their simplicity might suggest. – Thomas Moore
I have a simple philosphy about living life with a mental illness….never let the bastards win. And only you know who your personal bastards are.
I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding. -Anais Nin
“I believe that The One strengthens you, lifts you up and does not produce anxiety,” says Kathryn Alice, author of Love Will Find You. “When something isn’t right, your intuition keeps trying to let you know by putting nagging doubts in your mind as well as continual anxiety. This is a gut thing, and your gut is rarely wrong.”
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. – Theodor Seuss Geisel
- Submissive Guide Journal Prompts
- The Story of M: A Memoir
- The Doctrine of Completed Staff Work
- The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran
- A Year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose by Gay Hendricks
- If It Hurts, It Isn’t Love: And 365 Other Principles to Heal and Transform Your Relationships by Chuck Spezzano Ph.D.